John Trust asked, via Youtube: „Do you have anything to recommend that truly relaxes a chronically tense pelvic floor? I get some temporary relief from various hip lessons but i feel like i’m tackling it the wrong way 😁 love your work btw”
A chronically tense pelvic floor can be treated like a chronically tense jaw. In a nutshell, save for the theory behind it, you need to attain full ownership over the movements and tensions of the jaw space (including the tongue et al) and integrate these with the whole body. A client story comes to mind:
She wrote in to make an appointment. When she arrived at my studio she looked perfectly healthy. Slim, sporty, cheerful, in her mid 30ties, mother of two. She told me about her TMJ issues, and her jaw lock, and how it’s destroying her teeth, and giving her tension migraines, and about the many specialists she’s already seen—to no avail.
As a last hope, she told me, she’s visited a holistic dentist just a few days ago. This specialist recommended special dental braces which would realign not only her teeth but her entire posture. She said the dental braces therapy would cost $5000 for a first instalment, and the treatment would take anywhere from 1.5 years onwards, and she wasn’t looking forward to it.
As she was discussing this dilemma with her best friend, her best friend told her about me (I was living in a small town), and that she could try a hands-on session with me as one last thing before deciding for the dental braces. So that’s how she got into my studio.
I think the most difficult part of the story is this: How do we find the shoes that fit? Why do some of us have to search for years, sometimes for decades, for the thing that works?
For example, I had to go trough a lengthy Odyssey and visit many specialists to find a diet that would stop my skin from breaking out. It took more than two decades of trial and error! And in the end the solution was surprisingly simple and inexpensive.
Or another example, my own teeth grinding problem. First and foremost I didn’t know of it. I knew that some of my teeth suffered damage over the years, but it was only because of a comment from a dental assistant, when I was 43yo, that I became fully aware of it. She claimed that my teeth were terribly ground down for my age. I asked my new dentist about this, who then arranged his mirrors so I could see the backside of my teeth for myself, and confirmed. Up to that comment I thought I’m doing mostly all right with my teeth, since I didn’t have any new cavities for three decades.
With that, too, it took me decades to identify the problem. The costly, holistic specialist dentist who „advised” me when I was a child (and who makes most of her big money with dental braces for adults) was wrong in vital aspects. I almost too late dropped the exercises and habits she recommended to me. The damage is done and I have to live with it. It almost seems like as if half of the „experts” out there actively and knowingly create the problems they also happen to provide the solution for.
I’m touching on some bigger topics here. Maybe the biggest topic being culture, and how culture would originally keep us free from harm. For example, if all people of a culture would move in a way that is saving the lower back from lower back injuries, then the children would automatically learn to move like this too, thus there would hardly be any lower back injuries – and the other way round. But where am I going with this blog post?
Let me finish with my client’s TMJ solution: after one hands-on session her jaw lock was greatly relieved, and after three hands-on sessions her tension related problems—including her migraines—were solved.
Before she left I recommended that she talks to her dentist about a night guard (as I have been wearing one myself, for the past two years, even though I myself opted for a self-adjustable one, $12 for 2 on Amazon, instead of a custom made one for $600 from my dentist). And I recommended to do at least one of my shoulder and neck videos on Youtube once per week. Her search for a solution to her specific problem took years, and my professional expertise took even longer to develop, but in the end the solution to her problem was surprisingly simple and inexpensive.